A rough patch and keeping perspective

It started 4-5 weeks ago with H's first taste of rice cereal. He liked it (and he liked the bib even more!) The problem is that the rice cereal liked him too. So much so that it did not want to leave his little body, despite multiple glycerin suppositories daily, 8 baby food containers worth of prunes, pear juice, and a purchase of miralax.

Add to those problems a terrible cold, cough, and fever that made the rounds through all of us, but has hit H especially hard. Monday I took H back to the doctor because I was worried that his cough, which has only gotten worse over the past 2 weeks, had gone to his lungs. Thankfully it hadn't, but he is sporting a double ear infection. I'm glad that there's some explanation for his waking up 5-6 times a night. However, now that the antibiotics have kicked in, we're off to the store today to try a different brand of diapers. The Pampers Cruisers are not keeping the antibiotic-induced diaper contents from doing a little cruising of their own.

So I have spent my fair share of time in the rocking chair in little H's room over the past 4-5 weeks with a fussy, tired, sick baby. And I am worn out, drained, and just plain tired to my core. I have been thankful for this Alex Nabaum illustration that I have hanging in H's room:

At times it has helped me keep my perspective a bit to think about my non-sleeping baby as a little acorn, who will not need this kind of intense, physical nurturing for long. One day we'll all sleep again. Let's hope it's soon!

Catching up: H's Baby Blessing

We blessed little H the first Sunday in September--Labor Day weekend. I didn't get many pics because things were a little hectic, but here's a sampling of what I did get:

The "True Story" Pic: Mister distracted, Sweetie pouting because she wanted to hold little H, and little H crying his eyes out

The Whole Group--Thanks to all who came!

Opposition in all things

Yesterday I got in the shower and had just shampooed up my hair when, as if on cue, the baby monitor lit up and the wailing began. I felt like I was experiencing deja vu. I vividly remember the exact scenario happening when Mister was a baby, a very colicy baby, I might add. I remember standing there as the water poured over me and crying. I was just a new mother who simply wanted to take a shower at 1 in the afternoon. "What about me? What about me?" I said to nobody. And, amazingly enough, Somebody answered me. The thought came into my head forcefully, as if it had been said out loud: "It's not about you."

That was a turning point for me, my own personal Moses-moment, when I really understood for the first time that life in general is not and should not be about me. A thought that, at the time, like Moses, "I never had supposed."

So I have been thinking this past week, as I have been juggling a crying baby around the house and as I have been sitting out on the patio in the 112-degree head to calm his little stomach, about opposition and the paradoxes of the gospel life--loosing yourself to find yourself, receiving all only after giving all, and so on. The three postpartums I've experienced have been very difficult for me, physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, as I'm sure they are for most women. But that's probably part of the paradox. Would I treasure this so much

without this?

Would I love so deeply without giving so dearly?

In her book A Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, Annie Dillard describes the horror and viciousness of a giant water bug that poisons frogs, fish, and insects with one bite. This bite dissolves the victim’s insides—all but the skin, through which the giant water bug sucks out the victim’s body. Dillard then writes, “That it’s rough out there and chancy is no surprise. Every live thing is a survivor on a kind of extended emergency bivouac. But at the same time we are also created. In the Koran, Allah asks, ‘The heaven and the earth and all in between, thinkest thou I made them in jest?’ It’s a good question. What do we think of the created universe, spanning an unthinkable void with an unthinkable profusion of forms? . . . Pascal uses a nice term to describe the notion of the creator’s, once having called forth the universe, turning his back to it: Deus Absconditus. Is this what we think happened?”

Before Dillard answers her own question, she spends a great deal of time in her book describing her walks along Tinker Creek where she was privileged to see God’s creations and to experience what she calls “beauty, a grace wholly gratuitous.” She then ends her book, saying, “Divinity is not playful. The universe was not made in jest but in solemn incomprehensible earnest. By a power that is unfathomably secret, and holy, and fleet. There is nothing to be done about it, but ignore it, or see.”

Dillard looks at the oppositions in the world—the cruelty and the beauty—and can only make sense of it by concluding that our purpose is to take the time out of the busyness and nothingness of life to really see our surroundings and give thanks for them.

Although I agree with Dillard about the importance of taking time to really see, and although I find her writing beautiful, I’m glad I know that opposition in all things—even in the creation of the giant water bug—has a deeper purpose than she gives it. I’m glad I can find comfort and joy in the togetherness of my family because I have been single and lonely. I’m glad I can feel the peace of watching my baby sleep because I have felt the turmoil and helplessness of watching my baby cry.

Dillard searches all over creation, trying to philosophically think of the answer herself without doing what she should do the entire time: going to the Creator Himself and asking Him the meaning of opposition in life. After 271 pages exploring (among a few other things) the coexistence of both extreme cruelty and breathtaking beauty in nature, Dillard ends without a definitive answer. Despite that, she ends as she should, by praising and thanking God for the oppositions. I’ll quote her because I wish I could express praise and gratitude the way that she does: “I go my way, and my left foot says ‘Glory,’ and my right foot says ‘Amen’: in and out of Shadow Creek, upstream and down, exultant, in a daze, dancing, to the twin silver trumpets of praise.”

I admit that, unlike Dillard, I'm not to the point of glorifying and amen-ing the sleeplessness and pain and mood swings that is postpartum, but I am trying to cherish the moments of these first few weeks while I survive the larger portion of the days (and nights). And I do offer plenty of "Glory"s and "Amen"s when I watch my little baby and his ever-changing expressions as he sleeps.

Stylin'

What happens when Mommy does your hair after your first bath:

What happens when Daddy does your hair after your first bath:

Our newest addition

is finally here! Do you want the story? It begins on a dark and stormy night. You laugh, but it's true. My water broke at 2:15 am in the middle of thunder and lightning and pouring rain. A house on the way to the hospital was hit by lightning and went up in flames and even the hospital was hit. We arrived to "code red" status and fire alarms. But no worries. Labor and delivery was nice and peaceful.

Skipping now to the necessry information and the best part--the pictures. Our new little guy

made his entrance promptly on his due date, July 21, at 12:45pm. He weighed 8 lbs, 8 oz and measured 21 1/2 inches.

Meeting baby brother

Coming home

The results of my 20-week ultrasound

are a little blue!